Alright, anon. I’ll help you out. This is actually a super important question, so thanks for asking it.
✓ Do not say or do transphobic/cissexist things. If you unintentionally say or do transphobia/cissexist things and somebody calls you out on it, do not get defensive. Apologize and never do it again.
✓ If a non-cis person is openly non-cis, use their preferred pronouns.
✓ If you’re unsure whether or a not a non-cis person is openly non-cis around their mom/dad/doctor/grandma/boyfriend/girlfriend/etc and their mom/… uses the wrong pronoun to refer to them and the non-cis person does not correct them, DO NOT USE THEIR PREFERRED PRONOUNS.
✓ If a non-cis person has adopted a new name, do not tell anyone their “old name.”
✓ Do not out a non-cis person. Ever. You could put them in a potentially dangerous situation.
✓ Do not speak over the voices of non-cis people when it comes to issues that affect us.
✓ Never ever use the fucking phrase “I’m not transphobic, but…” or any variations.
✓ Never question a person’s gender.
✓ Never ask how they have sex.
✓ Never ask about their genitals.
✓ Stand up for non-cis people, even when they are not around or when there is no reward involved.
✓ Understand that some non-cis people might be wary of cis people bcos of personal experiences with cis people. It has nothing to do with you. It is not personal. This is how some non-cis people survive.
✓ Read through the blogs straightvoices and cisvoices and basically never say or do any of that shit.
I could continue listing all the ways in which cis people can best support non-cis people, but it’s essentially just being a decent person and treating non-cis people (and all members of the LGBTQ+ community) like human beings.
Please feel free to reblog this ask and include any other tips for best supporting non-cis/queer people.